The right to be sexy and beautiful as a mother, is an issue which women have had to fight for, for quite a while now. It seems that most people see sexy as meaning slutty and beauty as meaning selfish. Is it actually possible to combine beauty with sexy, and to have this combination be considered as a good thing, or is this simply taboo?
As moms, we are brought up to be nurturers and to care for everyone else. Generally, we feel a sense of pride in multi-tasking and being seen as the “go to” woman, and we hardly ever find time to really take care of ourselves – and if we make the time, we always feel guilty. Yet we are also shown by society that pretty women are wanted and receive attention. Throughout our lives, we’re taught that beauty is good and evil, and that sexy is always desirable and sinful. So, even if we’re striving to care for ourselves, and to feel truly beautiful and sexy, we’re constantly overwhelmed with conflicting ideas and impossible expectations from society. Just take a look at the confusing portrait we see of women, and the ideal of perfection which women are expected to achieve. “Be a martyr, be a saint, be beautiful and sexy – no you can’t, you’re a mom. How could you even think of putting yourself first, don’t you love your children? If you don’t look after yourself, your husband will want other women. Have you given up, and accepted to role of frumpy mom for the rest of your life? When are you going to get rid of that baby weight – the stars do it in 5 days,” and the comparisons go on and on. Confused? Overwhelmed? Tired? Of course you are!
Society tells us that if we’re sexy, we’ll be wanted and desired, but if we allow ourselves to be simply an object of pure physical desire, we won’t be respected, and this can hurt like nothing else. Society shows us that we need to be sexy and beautiful for everyone else, but never for ourselves. And this ladies, is where the ENTIRE problem originates – being beautiful and sexy for everyone else, and never for yourself. Truly inspired coaching for women can change everything!
So how do you get past the self-criticism and expectations of society? The first thing to do is to define what sexy and beautiful mean to you. Napoleon Hill tells us that when you mix Sex and Love you create calmness, and that when they’re together they soften and beautify. Every woman has a different way of expressing sexy once she finally taps into what that “looks like” to her. Beauty means something different to every woman. How do you express beauty? When do you feel beautiful and sexy internally and externally? These are the true questions you must be asking yourself.
Now, if you’re a mother…ohhhh the mother guilt will kick your #$@ if you let it. Please don’t let it, start by beginning to realize the amazing expression of love and beauty you can teach your daughter – and your son, for that matter. Being sexy is a beautiful thing, and a true expression of self-love. Being intimate with yourself first, so you can then be intimate with others, is a true gift and a true source of femininity.
Sexy and Love are magnetically combined, and you deserve them BOTH!
Tara Marino is the Creator of The Elegant Femme System, “The three women that live inside”, and the “Pretty Panty Line.” Tara supports Moms in defining themselves outside of the role of motherhood and teaches them the art of self-care without the mommy guilt. To receive her valuable tips on being Chic and Sexy, Contact Elegant Femme Today!